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May 2009 
On "Breakfast at Tiffany's" and Choices
Posted on Oct 25th, 2007
by 
Mark Jordan
Mark Jordan
Last night I watched "Breakfast at Tiffany’s" with my kids. We laughed together (although I think I laughed more than they did) and we talked about things like the significance of Cat not having a name, or both characters taking money for "companionship".
But watching the movie got me thinking about how every now and again we do something we’re not proud of in order to stay comfortable or achieve something we thought was a goal.
Just when that overwhelming theme begins to cast a shadow over the whole movie, Paul/Fred decided to take back his life. And I thought, it's not about the compromises; this movie is about how good it makes you feel to stand on your own again.
In watching the distain my daughter felt for Paul/Fred and Holly, I wondered if she is still having a problem with her mom dating a guy only because he is financially well off. Regardless, my daughter saw something in the movie that made her very uncomfortable.
I sense that because of her mom's choices, my daughter is afraid that she is going to leave her mom behind. Consequently, she is dragging her feet so that she can stay in contact with her mom.
You see, my son and daughter are extremely intuitive. They know what's going on without saying a word. They know who is connected to source and who has disconnected from source. My son has embraced his intuition and connection, but then again, fitting in at high school is easier for him than her.
However, I sense that all this scares my daughter because it means she has to face the reality that some of the people she enjoys hanging out with might not be helping her on her path. I also get the feeling that my daughter is afraid that she'll lose the joy of shopping at J. Crew. Of getting a new hairdo. Or of laughing at the silliness of "The Office".
Unfortunately, I'm currently perceived as too far gone (as far as she's concerned) to explain that's not necessarily the case.
Mostly I sense that my daughter feels that her mom needs some support right now. This teenager seems to know that I can handle having my beliefs rejected by her right now because I actually believe in them. But right now, somebody needs to be there for her mom.
Maybe, at 16, she's the most aware of us all.
But watching the movie got me thinking about how every now and again we do something we’re not proud of in order to stay comfortable or achieve something we thought was a goal.
Just when that overwhelming theme begins to cast a shadow over the whole movie, Paul/Fred decided to take back his life. And I thought, it's not about the compromises; this movie is about how good it makes you feel to stand on your own again.
In watching the distain my daughter felt for Paul/Fred and Holly, I wondered if she is still having a problem with her mom dating a guy only because he is financially well off. Regardless, my daughter saw something in the movie that made her very uncomfortable.
I sense that because of her mom's choices, my daughter is afraid that she is going to leave her mom behind. Consequently, she is dragging her feet so that she can stay in contact with her mom.
You see, my son and daughter are extremely intuitive. They know what's going on without saying a word. They know who is connected to source and who has disconnected from source. My son has embraced his intuition and connection, but then again, fitting in at high school is easier for him than her.
However, I sense that all this scares my daughter because it means she has to face the reality that some of the people she enjoys hanging out with might not be helping her on her path. I also get the feeling that my daughter is afraid that she'll lose the joy of shopping at J. Crew. Of getting a new hairdo. Or of laughing at the silliness of "The Office".
Unfortunately, I'm currently perceived as too far gone (as far as she's concerned) to explain that's not necessarily the case.
Mostly I sense that my daughter feels that her mom needs some support right now. This teenager seems to know that I can handle having my beliefs rejected by her right now because I actually believe in them. But right now, somebody needs to be there for her mom.
Maybe, at 16, she's the most aware of us all.
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