Relaxing into Compassion and Understanding

Lately I've been working on relaxing into a deeper understanding, initially just of why I make the choices that I do. In letting go of an outcome (which is what I mean by "relaxing into it") I've come to really understand the concept that we all do the best we can in each moment. Sometimes that doesn't seem like the best I can do, but in that moment, it usually is.

There are things I do that seem to make no sense, until I go back to that moment, fully. When I look back with objectivity and feeling, I grasp the swirl of emotions, the feelings in my heart, soul, and body, and can feel why I did what I did.

This all came about because I've been having challenges with somebody who wants to reconnect after many years away. Seven, to be precise. It wasn't a pretty end to a tumultuous relationship, but I've grown significantly since then, and I thought that she might have too.

But when we got together, the energy wasn't comfortable for me. I'm much more grounded these days, more calm, and more aware of not getting caught up in the energy waves that come at me from time to time. Eventually, I asked for some time and space to see if things would calm down.

Things did calm down, for me. And as I stepped out of the shower this morning I realized the importance of time and space for relaxing into understanding and compassion. Without the pressure to make a decision in the moment, I could step back, and be objective with Love.

The key for me here was realizing that being objective doesn't mean removing Love or feelings, it means not being attached to a judgment in this case. When I step back in Love, I don't judge or make assumptions about why something happened. No motives are assigned. I just know that everybody involved was doing the best they could at the time.

And that's all I could ever ask of anybody -- even myself. Just do your best, and be your best you.